A Mini Vent and New Article Links

I’ve missed this blog. Very much. Very very much. When I started it I found myself in a less than fun space, and now that I am writing on it for the first time in months I can say I am back again in a not so fun space. I suppose this is my refuge.…

Remembering Karyn Washington

This post is not going to be about suicide or mental health. I have read enough speculative pieces about Karyn Washington’s emotional state in the days following her passing and I do not wish to add to that canon. Instead, I want to remember how she lived and what a great impact she has had…

Interracial Relationships in the BDSM Lifestyle

A few weeks ago, I read a conversation on Twitter discussing interracial relationships, namely those between White men and Black women. The main issue was related to the latter group being seen as a fetish by the former. It immediately piqued my interest– my very first relationship ever was with a White man. While I…

No One Wants A Bone: The Other Side of Body Shaming

“Eat more!” “Why are you so thin??” “Real men want meat not bones!” I’ve grown up hearing all those comments and then some as a naturally petite girl. In a family full of curvy women I always felt completely out of place because of my frame. Regardless of the fact that mainstream lauded women with…

Prelude: The Song Chronicles

In my mind I have written this story about a thousand times. In my mind I have found solace from writing it. In my mind I am fearless in publishing this account; I no longer care about anything or anyone involved in these events. But none of this has happened. And besides writing it, I…

Will I See You Tonight…

I had quite the day yesterday. What I thought would be a typical Monday – filled with staff meetings and symptoms of weekend withdrawal turned into an unexpected day filled with laughs, ale, onion rings and a trip to the Daily Show with Jon Stewart. Safe to say that by the time I was headed…